While many people will enter the institute of marriage without much thought, it is a relationship that should be considered carefully before anyone says "I do". Why, you may ask? Well, the fact is that, contrary to popular belief, marriage has similarities to traditional romantic relationships; however, the primary difference is that you will be sharing all aspects of your life with another individual for the rest of your life. This can be a particularly scary thought and you must be prepared to take on the immense responsibility involved. As with all relationships, it is possible that the relationship can become difficult and will breakdown. This article will discuss the five signs indicating a potential marriage breakdownn.
Communication is a pivotal aspect of any romantic relationship and can direct the marriage. Unfortunately, not all individuals are competent in the art of interpersonal communication, hence the popularity of couples therapy. One common misconception is that married individuals, particularly those who have been married for several years, are able to "read each other's thoughts" - this is nonsense. Strong communication only presents when people are able to speak to each other about their feelings and their needs openly without fear of rejection or judgment. Older couples are typically able to complete this task, hence displaying the possible "reading the other person's mind"; or they find divorce far too tiresome.
Negotiation is a skill linked to strong communication. As marriage is a bond where individuals share their lives, there is a need for compromise and negotiation in order to co-exist peacefully. In couples therapy this is described as a form of "giving and taking" to maintain a balance within the home; for example, one person will fetch the children from school if the other will cook dinner. Negotiating may seem daunting, but it can be simple and can show commitment to the marriage.
As is mentioned, commitment is an essential part of a successful marriage. In fact, it is part of the wedding vows: "until death do us part". Unfortunately, a rushed society has made the world sometimes difficult to manage and it can be easy to lose sight of the vowed commitment. Before entering marriage it is advised that you determine whether or not you will be able to commit to another individual completely. If not, it may be best to remain in an "open relationship" or enjoy the single life.
4. Emotional Communication And Connection
In addition to having strong interpersonal communication skills, a healthy marriage requires strong intrapersonal or emotional communication skills. This means that each individual is able to communicate their emotional state in a situation without having to verbally express it. Emotional connections are also important as they persist over time once the physical connection has expired. An individual who does not have an emotional connection with their partner may feel uncomfortable if they are unable to be "comfortable without talking".
5. Financial Situations
It is often the case that married individuals will share household expenses and may have a joint bank account. Despite being useful, difficulties can arise in households where one individual earns more than another and are not willing to increase their financial share. Financial crisis can also cause problems where individuals will argue over the financial difficulty questioning the other's revenue. It is always best to remain honest about financial matters in order to avoid a marriage breakdown.
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