Women like casual conversation; they also crave deeper conversations with their dates. Dead air and awkward silences are one of their biggest pet peeves and can be the reason they stop seeing a person. You can have chemistry, you can have common interests and tastes, but if you cant keep a conversation going, that womans going to walk away.
Keep the conversation going and dont let it die! Here are ten tips to help you keep conversation rolling smoothly.
Show up on a date prepared because if you dont, youll have a falling out faster than you thought you would. Be ready for all kinds of conversations and listen intently. Its understandable that some times, peoples nerves get in their way and will affect how they speak. Calm down. Relax. Come prepared with a list of topics in mind to talk about and be as interesting as possible.
Talk about her interests
Ask about her likes and dislikes and take the conversation from there. Ask about her hobbies and what she enjoys doing in her free time. Find out about her her passions in life and what she does to unwind when shes stressed from work. You can also share yours, and maybe youll find something that you both have something in common.
If shes talking a lot about one topic, keep it going
This is a good sign that shes becoming comfortable talking to you about something that matters to her. Dont switch topics, not when shes excitingly chatting about the current topic. Only change the subject when she has finished talking about it.
Ask follow-up questions
This is the best thing to do to keep a conversation going. Dont make it seem like an interrogation or an interview. Be casual and fun. If youve asked her about what her favorite song is, follow it up by asking why. Youll get to know your date better by asking questions, and this will also open up more topics for you to talk about.
Talk about other people, too, not just yourself
A conversation shouldnt only center around you.. You can share other peoples stories, too. This will give you more topics to talk about and therefore keep the conversation going throughout the date.
Listen intently and dont interrupt her
When your date is in her element andtalking about something, dont interrupt. That is one rule you must not forget. Even though youve thought up of something that relates to what shes speaking about, wait for her to finish before speaking up.
Ask open-ended questions
In a date, asking a lot of questions is normal. Make sure your questions are open-ended. Open-ended questions are those that need more elaborate answers. Closed-ended questions,where a simple yes or no is sufficient, stifle conversation. If you cant avoid asking a question like this, follow it up with another question to keep your conversation going.
Always, always be polite
Being a gentleman is a huge bonus. Women love it when they feel safe and respected with someone theyre dating. Be aware that some issues might be sensitive to woman, so before asking them a blunt question, think about it first before bringing it up. If they have unintentionally offended you or your beliefs, tell them calmly and in a nice way.
Make her laugh
Let your date see your funny side. A sense of humor can be the cure for awkward silences. Just remember to be funny without being offensive and do it moderately. Sometimes when its too much, it can become annoying.
Dont let your nerves get to you. Have fun and enjoy, after all, this is a date. Embrace it when awkward silences happen and dont make it such a big deal. Acknowledge them and maybe even laugh about them.
Theres a lot you can do to sustain a conversation. Good conversation is especially easy when you like the woman youre dating. The tips above hopefully will help you out. Best of luck!
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